In the shock of grief, in the midst of death, in unfathomable loss and pain that makes your soul cringe just to get air you instinctively fight for normalcy.

And then at some point you realize the normal you want is no longer the normal you have.

And then you have a choice to make: to keep fighting for what has left you that you no longer have or to relent and surrender, accepting your powerlessness and with it the freedom and the healing to take hold of a new normal.

This is what I call the element of finding melodie in grieving, mourning, losing and learning how to love and live again.

The element of finding new music in your life and a new you.

I understand the language of grief and the vernacular of tears. I understand them both very well.