Sometimes relationships end because they were unhealthy and at some point you became healthy and you changed.
The change meant the dysfunction you brought to the table was now replaced by better thinking, healthier interactions, and a more grounded you.
When you’re unhealthy you can live in dysfunctional relationships and friendships with other people. But when you become healthy and you find those relationships don’t progress with you it just might be they were never meant to.
Some things are seasonal. Berries. Pumpkin Spice Lattes at Starbucks. And connections with some that can’t move forward into your future.
You’re different. Healthy. Better. They could be different. Healthy. Better too. And maybe independent of each other you realize what held you together in past days is gone, diffused and unneeded, because you both are very different people now.
And if you try to go back to the nostalgia, to the memories of what used to be because yeah, maybe those were great days full of great laughter, and you hope the memories of the past can hold together the rupturing realities of your present, don’t do it.
Let it go. Let that person go. Let it go.
It will be a tough road but it will also be incredibly freeing. There’s a rest and peace that comes with letting people go.
Sometimes you just “got to leave the party.”
I’m learning that leaving doesn’t mean I’m not a good friend and I don’t love well. Leaving keeps my heart healthy and ready for new seasons and new relationships.
Now when I let go of fading relationships, I’m finding more truth by reviewing if dysfunction was present at some point. If I was unhealthy in those relationships at some point. I’ve done this recently and the observations were stunning.
Was dysfunction present? Yes.
Did I see it then? No.
What changed? I became healthy in various areas of my life.
What happened to the dysfunction? I grew into wellness and as a result, created a shift in these relationships.
Was it easy to let go? It’s never easy to let go when you bond with someone. But I’m learning letting go makes space for better things to begin in my world.
Be grateful for the relationships that you have to let go. Think about how they changed you for the better and allowed you to become more of the you that you are today.